Have you ever said this about your relationship:

“It wasn’t like this in the beginning…he or she was loving, fun, caring, attentive…”

You fell in love with someone that made you feel incredibly special:

They charmed you

They were kind

They were everything you hoped for in a relationship, plus some.

They convinced you that they were trustworthy, giving, and were crazy about you!

They created this illusion to hook you – they knew what you needed...to feel like you’ve never felt before! To be heard, to have your heart melt and to know that this is the one! They checked all the boxes!

Unfortunately, personality disordered people do this to “love-bomb” you – to have your needs so met, like never before, showering you with love, admiration, and attention – they draw your heart and your love in. Then…they slowly start to let their real self show; usually after a commitment – so they have you trapped. They have set up the groundwork for manipulation. The person you fell in love with sadly doesn’t even exist; it was an illusion that a person with Narcissistic personality disorder NEEDS you to believe that they are – to suck you in - so that you will take care of them and fill their needs – which then leads to belittling, abuse, power, and isolation.

Once a Narcissist knows that they have you hooked, they go back to their selfish, cruel ways, and you stand there hurt and don’t have any idea what happened; over time, they convince you that it is your fault that things went bad…that your ‘reaction’ to their behavior IS the problem, not their abusive behavior. It is degrading and painful.

Being in ANY kind of a relationship with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder is destructive, but you can learn to be your own self again, have joy again – and know that you have value and worth. If you need help in these areas, please reach out: 719-375-4622.